Typing.....(notification chimes)
'What did the doctor say?'
She said I have partial blindness..but it is curable.
'Serves you..right (whispers)...See, I am worried now
The bill is high, the checkup points are 55 days and I need to rest more, I guess the medicine comprises maybe eye glycerin... I don't know what it says but the prescription is long and I guess it might take longer, I'm scared about coming here ag..(interrupts)
'When is the next checkup?'
25th, the Monday, they said..but I think it's just a check-up, I should be fine, I will get my past reports and the medic..(interrupts)
'What does your parents say?'
They are really concerned and worried, but they also want me to be assured and confident when I arrive next.
'Bae, I have something urgent to handle, can I catch up after an hour, thanks!' (leaves)
AFTER 1 HOUR...
'Hey, what were you saying? Come on....hey? you there?'
Yeah, So where was I?
'I dont know something about parents..'
Yeah, so my parents think I should take medicines later , I should tell the doctor about my past medical records and then he/she might consider ..(interrupts)
'Okay keep typing..I'm eating lunch, I'll reply later'
------No chats-----
AFTER 30 MINUTES
'Hey, you there?' 'Hello?'
Hey, Sorry , Arav just called I was on call.
'Who is Arav now?'
My old friend from school..
'What? Never heard of him. What did you guys talk so long for?'
I just replied to him that I am unwell and he called me immediately, he was just curious and all..so we were conversing about it.
'Why do you have so many male friends? Plus the ones I dont know about are way annoying.'
Haha, cause they stay.. I think also maybe I changed a lot of places since childhood and I do have female friends but they are just very composed to their environment or themselves.
'You think it is possible? Maybe it's you, you want the Male-attention. Explains ..why you dress and post things so liberally without fear. Anyways, what are you doing?'
Um, why are you so bothered? Are you jealous?
'Well, yes.'
But I love you, you know that right?
'Who believes you? I love you too but I don't trust you.'
Why? I could have done or been anything, anywhere but I choose you over everything and everyone , I do express you and you do are my priority, why don't you trust me? We have been together for ages now..
'Because the way you behave, the way you are happy , the way your actions sway other guys, everything about you , make me doubt myself.'
Do you even love me then?
(Still : Romance is a Bonus Book - Read my next blog to catch up more about it)
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Author Note :
Let's discuss the possibilities first, I will tell you the reasons later,
Often, we meet people in our lives who approach us for friendships, and some lucky moments with them can turn your friendship into love. Here the love is a kind in its own which we experience while growing up as a teen and ahead of that, the first times and sparkly 'yes, I do' 'he/she got me a chocolate or asked me out' thingy...,there are more forms of love (please do note your homework, to learn about them too - good !).What we forget here is that it must be from both sides; if either side misinterprets friendship love as romantic love, he or she will never be physically or emotionally ready for you. Instead, he may regard your job as obsessive or firm, one that you are not supposed to quit and is clearly disturbed when you do; they want 100% from you at all times and desire more care or attention regardless of the function that they are required to perform. It could also be the result of a childhood trigger in which they lack attention, admiration, and encouragement, combining their possessive and caring natures without mature decisiveness. I doubt they ever realise the exhaustion, self-doubt, or pain that the other side bears as a result of their inability to realise, but at every peak point, one of them suffers and the other realises what love is in a clearer way as they move on in the world, receiving more forms of love and investing their time elsewhere.
The other side's regard will decline as a result of the relationship that survives, which takes you for granted.The companion asks, "Who is he/she?" which suppresses the love and plays the ego/victim card.If this continues, it will undoubtedly lead to gaslighting, but it will also leave either side susceptible. But that's not all; personal boundaries and individuality are becoming increasingly blurred. Whatever happens next erases the consideration of self-respect, followed by the role of affection, and last, attraction, ah! It doesn't take long to go...all you have is a hollow spirit with memories, and this is the ideal time to lose interest, cheat, or run out of love.I hope you've witnessed folks struggling to let go, regardless of the sensations they carry, the outflowing feelings that remain are limited to themselves, including suffering and the suppression of expressions. They need love yet refuse to be treated the same way again, as if they were leftovers!
Now lets get back to the 3 reasons what questions you MUST ask to yourself before you date your (THAT ) best friend or a die-hard friend?
1. Are you ready to be taken for granted?
The answer from either side is NO!
Man: It might be very shiny and achievement kinda-feeling where you get home and get THAT sleep where you dream and wake up with a happy-mood.Snap out! Its true but technically...as she might be more empathetic, more romantic or more expecting than your simple 'wake-up at 6 am or go to college' schedule. So, ask this and try to think about the fact that is she a woman you'd like to give your rest of the lifetime to or is she just the flow-train person and you'd figure out kinda-relationship. You might pass the commitment test but is she sure about you? When is the right time to be insecure and what would the mixed emotions do, if you are friends already and know each other? Is it trust or past?
Woman: It is a princess dream-come true, you finally have a love story to tell and you are hooked to the person you are friends with - means? He would understand you, encourage/support your moods and he will always respect or accompany you, no matter what, but would he? You do dream but are you sure that you would not look at your friend as a friend ever again but a man who is also a friend and you would never look at any other man/boy again?
That's a lot of dilemma-drama; the key question here is whether you're ready to commit and how confident you are at this stage. If it's mutual and strong, it's better because there will be times when your man/woman will be on a pedestal in front of the public/society, or it could be your own family, where they can/may compromise your respect and choose the others, taking you for granted. This can also come with time management or attention, as they say, 'if they want, they will', which comes from mutual confidence in the relationship and security.You're not hard to love and either side should make sure that they never think this way again.
2. Do you realise their point of attention and emotional turn-offs?
It is certainly necessary to encourage, nourish, and allow each other's feelings to grow; however, your partner -who was once your friend - may have a different perspective on relationship and friendship, which should be noted. This includes the triggers that capture their attention; always memorise them in tips - the parts of activities that can influence or draw their attention as a man/woman. Emotional turnoffs are crucial because they can drive away trust and reliability; this is not always the case, but it can be a significant trigger as adults. If you know your spouse may have an issue with certain emotional involvement or feelings, talk gently and seek negotiation (post-situation) or ask for consent (pre-situation).If you trust each other, everything would be on track. Honesty and truth is core!
3. Are you mature enough to realise the pit-fall between romance and friendship?
So, it's important to consider where you come from.Never forget -One and Two- where your companion comes from! Now, friendship love evolving into romantic love is an important aspect of life, but it takes tiny efforts to move forward and recognise the difference; treat them on a different level than you do now. They say friendship in love is crucial, but love in friendship may cause you to question yourself. So, you know the pit you're travelling towards will cost you everything now or never, and if you fall in, you must balance and gradually settle to make a home out of it.
So, lovergirls and loverboys, love should be a one-time thrill and then what we do is negotiations but sometimes those negotiations might turn to another form of love but never the same, so know where you are headed...this content is coming from diverse experiences,books and interviews. Dooriyan..is right and important when it is required with some sprinkle of patience indeed for the universe to set the role play for you. Furthermore, you touch the bottomline when you love for the first time or it is a one-sided show (must be hard huh) and then you cross every limit of emotional strains that may cause traumas (be-careful to that), so the next time you love, either you become wiser or a complete giver but never a fixer.You can cuss me, call me out (@trisx.r) or maybe dramatise this for a chat with your lover/friend, I dunno mind! Hope you get the head over heels efforting love that chases you till death, until then keep reading.
(Book Reference and recommendation : Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus)